Ways To Prevent Your Ex From Alienating Your Children

parental alienationBy Daniel Exner

Milwaukee Divorce Lawyer

Dads seeking divorce advice frequently ask divorce lawyers about how to keep their ex-wives or soon-to-be-exes from saying negative things to the children about their father.

Many divorced parents will talk about the divorce case with their children, use the kids as messengers, or, in worse cases, fill their children’s heads with lies about the other spouse in an attempt to turn the children against the targeted parent.

While there are legal steps you can take to prevent your children from being exposed to the details of your case, practically speaking, these options may not produce the best results.

Family courts have jurisdiction over the parties involved in a divorce action and all their minor children. Most family law judges strenuously believe that the children should be kept out of the process as much as possible and look unfavorably upon any party who chooses to act otherwise.

Typically, the court will not issue orders concerning the children unless there are child custody and visitation disagreements between the parents or the children are in danger of harm.

To help keep children out of the fray, courts will sometimes issue orders that prohibit parties from making disparaging comments about the other, using the children as messengers, or introducing the children to new relations.

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Furthermore, while you may be able to obtain these orders from a court, you may not practically have the ability to enforce them. Proving that your ex-wife is speaking poorly of you will be tough. Receiving a sanction from the court based on her contempt will be even tougher.

Moreover, the more you and the opposing party fight about the children, the more likely the court will appoint a Guardian ad Litem (GAL). A GAL is an attorney appointed to represent the best interests of the children.

If parties disagree on child custody or allege one party is acting against the best interests of the children, the court may ask a GAL to step in and make a recommendation on what should be done with the kids.

If you know that custody will be an issue, and would like a third party around to help prevent the opposing party from dragging your children into the divorce, requesting a GAL may be a smart move.

If you want to finish the divorce uncontested, quickly, and relatively inexpensively, you probably do not want a GAL to enter the case.

 

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Zuleimy lavin
2 months 11 days ago

I want the father of my child to see his daughter but he wants everything his way and thats not right because i have been doing all the work with our child.

Zuleimy lavin
2 months 11 days ago

If im the primary care giver and doing everything on my own and the child is living with me is there a changce i can gel sole custody. I been taking car of my daughter since she been born she is almost turning four month and the father only halped a few times.

Zuleimy lavin
2 months 11 days ago

The father of my child told me i will lose my child when she grows up that he will save all text message and show our child how Im a bad mom and ehat im doing.

jessie
7 months 12 days ago

I had custody of my kids I filed a restraining order but I did not file for divorce so my wife and filed for divorce and then the court decided to give the kids back to her in the home how could this possibly be when she pulled out a knife on me and also had affair on me and I have proof phone records in a wife coming to court to testify of the husband and she had the affair thank you

jessie
7 months 12 days ago
I had custody of the kids I filed a restraining order against my wife because she had pulled out a knife I have the police report to back it I didn’t wait it did not go file for divorce then my wife went file for divorce in the court gave her custody back of the kids in the home and kick me out of the home other than just getting my clothes I do not understand there’s and how could this have happened when she’s accused of playing on a knife when the police will pull up to the scene… Read more »
Jan
7 months 23 days ago

Monica;
recommend reading this book :
Adult children of parental alienation syndrome
Book by Amy J. L. Baker

It can show you the patterns, behaviors and outcomes of alienation.
COnsult a family law attorney immediately.

Jan

Monica Torrez
10 months 19 days ago

my husband alienates my kids from me when all i want to do is be a mother that isnt absent. He controls everything and i just want whats in my childrens best interest..Can you help me??

Andrew Steiger
3 years 2 months ago
GALS in WI Court appointed GALs in WI are probably far worse contributors to alienation so do be very careful with these legal beagles. Once appointed they will and often do accelerate the alienation process. They can self appoint themselves or interfere with your custody for no other reason than they have immunity from wrong doing. The most important thing to remember is there is no accountability for their actions or decisions, nor the actions of the court as a result of it. 40 percent of fathers in WI never have a relationship with their children. 60% are only assigned… Read more »
Janeen Dunn
3 years 4 months ago
My ex used dirty methods of trying to get custody of our daughter last year. It was proven from my daughters own mouth during investigation that he would show her private text between him and I about custody and disagreements. As well as among other things. Additionally, I feel he is trying to make it impossible for me to see my daughter considering the meeting place to exchange our daughter is significantly closer to him and he doesn’t have to pay expensive tolls or deal with the city traffic (over $2,100 a yr if I met her during all my… Read more »
4 years 8 months ago
AlienationIf you suspect alienation and are going to request a GAL, make sure to request one that is trained to identify alienation. Be aware that the GAL can become an alienator GAL if they are not familiar with alienation and do not have plans in place to counter any bias that the children can create when they are being influenced negatively against you by the other parent. And then you can become frustrated and unknowingly fall into the trap of feeding this vicious cycle. Ask experts in alienation for referrals to people that they know are trained in this area.
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