How Do I Get My Ex To Stop Harassing Me?

spouse harassmentBy Jennifer M. Paine

Cordell & Cordell Divorce Lawyer

Every divorced dad with kids, at some point during and after his divorce, will hear his ex-wife harassing him.

Trust me, as a men’s divorce attorney, if it has not happened to you yet, it will. It may be a quibble over school grades, who is to take your son to soccer practice, whether your daughter needs to see a doctor, etc.

It may be her family or friends “just talking” at your child’s next function about your parenting style. It may be a constant stream of phone calls and texts about what needs to happen during your parenting time, who is around during your parenting time, whether the two of you agree on vacation time, and so forth.

For some divorced dads, these are minor annoyances that they can deal with. Send a quick text back to your ex about your child’s plans and remind those family and friends that you, and your child, can hear them talking at that event.

For most divorced dads, however, they snowball and feel like, and often are, harassment that erodes your parenting time.

What can you do? Consult with your divorce attorney and consider these three options to stop your ex from harassing you:

1. Civil Injunction

A civil injunction is the divorce court’s version of a personal protection order. What kinds of conditions you can include in yours is very state-specific, so be sure to consult with your attorney.

In general, civil injunctions require both parents to restrain from disparaging each other, in front of their child or otherwise, but they may also require each parent to refrain from talking to the other or appearing at the other’s home and work except to discuss matters pertaining to their child.

Unlike a personal protection order, however, most police officers will not enforce these orders automatically with the threat of, or actual, arrest if your ex violates the terms.

Rather, you have to file a contempt action in the divorce court. So, if your safety is at risk, you should consider a personal protection order instead.

On the other hand, this also means your ex cannot call the police claiming you violated the order or hold the threat of arrest over your head.

Cordell & Cordell understands the concerns men face during divorce.

2. Forms of Communication

In all states, your judge can require certain forms of communication between you and your ex.

The goal here is to streamline the process for communication to eliminate the potential for three phones calls, 10 texts, five emails and a call from your in-laws over the span of minutes over something innocuous.

In other words, this is an option you may want to consider if your ex has a habit of barraging you with questions and, intentionally or not, interrupting your parenting time.

If phone calls inevitably lead to a yelling match about who-did-what-when, then texting may be more appropriate (except, of course, for emergencies).

If texting leads to hours spent on your phone defining yourself, then limits on the number of texts, or emails, or an obligation to use a journal (that your child should not see) may be more appropriate.

For particularly difficult exes, software that monitors and saves communications, potentially for the judge’s review, may be best.

3. Parenting Coordinator

There are some exes, though, who will just not comply no matter what your orders say.

They can create an “emergency” out of anything, for example, to justify their phone calls to you when the judge ordered calls only for emergencies. Or they will have friends and family contact you, Facebook message you, or drive by your home instead.

For these particularly difficult exes, sometimes a middle-person to field questions, settle disputes, and arrange parenting time is best.

Depending on your state, these folks are called parenting coordinators, post-judgment GALs, family counselors, etc., and their credentials vary. Fees can be steep, but they are also less expensive then constant post-divorce litigation.

4. The Need For Patience

Most of all, and this will take plenty of practice, learn to keep your patience. More often than not, what looks like harassment in the first few months post-divorce is really your ex’s way of navigating her own issues over your divorce.

She, as do you during her parenting time, has lost control over your most important assets – your children – and learning how to cope takes time for both of you.

If the harassment continues, though, know that you do have options, and consult with your attorney to determine which are best for you.

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Jennifer M. Paine is a Michigan Divorce Lawyer with Cordell & Cordell. She is licensed to practice in Michigan, and has been admitted pro hac vice in Illinois, Ohio, and the United States Court of Federal Claims.

Ms. Paine received her Bachelor of Arts in English and Mathematics from Albion College and graduated Summa Cum Laude. She received her Juris Doctorate from MSU College of Law and graduated Summa Cum Laude.

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48 comments on “How Do I Get My Ex To Stop Harassing Me?

    let me just say…if your having a problem thats making you look at a site like this…
    cut to the chase and do what I did after 10 years of agony with an abusive ex:

    If you have a custody agreement – stick to it exactly..dont budge at all. Keep it simple…there is a schedule and follow it. If your ex says your being inflexible..just state( not to im, but court if he brings you in ) all of the harrasment and instability that he’s shown and that youve documented. If your ex has written crazy abusive emails(mine did for 10 years…if it werent for custody he’d be charged with a crime they are so obscene)…stop responding at all, even if its a request for extra time. A few times a year write to him with a prepared schedule (you can find XCL calendar templates online and pdf it) and also writing that the child is available and ready for visitation on his allocated times.

    my ex goes through ups and downs, while I remain solid and stable….sometimes he wants no custody and is abusive and absent and then when he decides to stabilize he asks for extra time(and will sometimes cancels on that even)..a constant roller coaster..Kids need predictibility, stability…….do what you need to do to provide that….but BE SMART about it so you dont end up having to hand your kids over to an abuser which is the current unavoidable trend in custody right now

    my divorce decree states that the attorneys will be discharged 61 days after the filing of the decree, this was 10 months ago but her attorney continues to send letters to my house, can I file for a civil injunction to keep him/his office from contacting me? I reside in MN

    For the men who immediately go to court after a woman gives birth, I just want to advise that you are asking for such wrath to enter your life.
    Think about the recovery after birth and immediately you are stressing the woman. Dear God. What do you expect?
    Try compassion, support, hugs. Yes please serve to her needs.
    If after one year none of this helps then start court.
    But by the grace of Gods do not attack the woman for the child she grew and provided portal for as soon as the child is out and bloody! When woman rises SHE WILL ATTACK FULL FORCE for you have shown traits of a threat instead of support and safety for the child.
    Humans may be civilised but instinct still arises. This is woman’s instinct.
    If a year or 2 passes and things do not improve you have scorned the woman and then battle with law…but even for that a price will be paid.
    It was cheaper to keep her, love her, and take responsibility.
    Now you suffer for creating when it should have been a beautiful thing to share children.
    Be careful who you procreate with and be careful of treacherous actions.

    My son is divorced with a three year old daughter which the exwife has custody of. Her lawyer during the divorce had my son sign sign papers saying he would take a drug test to see his daughter. All because my son gave one of his prescribed pills to his cousin who would not leave him alone, until doing so. My son is having to pay for three drug tests a week now and cannot continue to do this. He is not a drug addict and works hard every day. He does not make enough money to pay for these tests and child support. His ex threatens him with no more visitations if he doesn’t take these tests. He is distraught. I or my wife do not get to see our granddaughter either. Is there anyone we can go to? All of the judges here are good friends with her lawyer so the courts here are really crooked. What are his and our options.

    Um EVERY divorced dad??? Extremely irresponsible post. You’re an officer of the court and your job is to help people through these situations rather than make ridiculous and unfounded comments like that which simply stir the pot. I guess if you can’t make money the ethical way….

    This is all a bunch of BS. A court won’t do anything useful unless physical abuse has happened. That’s it. Anything else is a waste of lawyer money. My current spouse has full custody of child between her and her ex and he sends harrassing texts and degrading texts constantly to her. WE have been to court 15 times and all the court does is fine him and he keeps on doing it. The only time a court will be useful is after your ex has physically assaulted you, or killed you. Yay for the useless court system…

    That is 100% true. I had filed a temporary restraining order and it was granted the same day and 3 weeks later in court to determine to make it permanent, the magistrate laughed at me , threw my evidence in the trash and told me i dont have a case. This evidence was printed tests, emails regarding threats to me and my household, admitting to stalking by driving past my house and determining what time i got home each day etc. This was in Medina OH. Im at wits end. The harassment still continues, and honestly i see why these things escalate into criminal if not felony issues, the court dismisses serious allegations until its too late. The court system doesnt work unless you have alot of money to throw at attorneys.

    I so agree…its like ..ok ..after Im dead or my childs dead..THEN they wil ldo wrong and pathetic!

    Abusive people can be male or female.

    I think the reason abusive behavior is so prevent now is the “no fault””no marital conduct standard”. Abusive people can lie, cheat, steal, abuse their spouse and kids, and there are no repercussions in divorce court; you get the same parenting time, asset division, child support. There is no societal support for being a good person/spouse/parent. It just gets worse from there.

    For the usual control and drama issues, just parallel parent – there is no co-parenting in those cases. Also, reduce communication lines, do a lot of ignoring.

    But it can get a whole lot worse. In our case my ex-husband has ratched it up to intense spam phone/email/posted box harrassment from 3rd parties, calls the city on invented violations, my lawyer says “swatting” may be next. He has our soshs and birthdays, we’ve been told to prepare for fraud. There was domestic violence and death/suicide threats. It’s hell. I keep hoping he’ll move away or forget about us, but really, disappearing is about our only option.

    I too have an ex husband who will not stop. He has felony stalking & harrassment. He constantly calls my family friends etc.. DHS just anyone to ness with me or anyone who talks to me. My daughter ran away & now he has her and trying to start a huge mess. He loves to naoe my life miserable. Why? Lord mive on get a life. You have the baby 16 yrs old. So raise her. Leave me alone. Why do the DHS & authorities even listen to this scum? He harrasses people. I dont know how to get himto leave me alone. I never asked for a dime Just to be left alone. Ehy is it so hard?

    I have joint custody and my exwife refuses to let me see my daughter, I haven’t seen her in 3 years and over that time period, I have taken police escorts to my daughter up but the police couldn’t force her to follow the visitation order, ive also had access and visitation programs contact her and she told them she would not comply, ive tried contacting her on facebook and she threatens to file harassment charges on me and file a restraining order, I pay 620.00 a month in child support for one child in Georgia and I don’t know her where abouts, help me! I don’t have money for a lawyer, imleft with only 100.00 a week after child support

    Bud in paying $2100. For three, a combat veteran of three deployments and I come home from that to have all my shit taken after being put in jail for domestic violence and I didn’t even hit her, jailed for 93 days, I was protecting my kids….. From moms antics. I lost four cars my house and now I’m a disabled veteran who is homeless…. GA courts and laws don’t care about the fathers they care about rotating you in and out of jail… Truth. It sucks, but I’m gonna give you something that will pass your time till you see your kid….. Read the book the actual book or however you read, what to expect when your expecting there’s like three books, read em all, reason being is there is good knowledge medically and experience wise on mommys recovery even years after birthing process…. I did this and when I could relate, things got to were trust can to me again….. Think outside the box your baby momma lives in and stuff gets easy I promise…. Good luck and screw GA your on your own there… God bless

    I am a combat veteran of 23 years, I can’t afford an attorney, she’s getting half of my retirement, plus another $1200, and making my life a living hell. The state of Florida granted her permanent alimony, she has her own business. I’m working an hourly job and can barely make it on paycheck and disability. How is the system fair?

    I too have similar issues, but perhaps over a longer period of time. Try to bare with me as I explain. My daughter is now 16, almost 17. When she was born, mom did everything to prevent me from seeing my child. After 4 years of hunting and trying to find them, I finally located them. We, as young parents with no money, tried having an agreement outside of court regarding visitation. That was an epic fail. This was basically mom still having ALL authority, my child calling me Bob as to “not confuse her”, but when she turned 7 she figured it all out on her own that I am her dad and her mom had been lying all this time. At that point I made the decision to make everything legal and do the right thing. I filed for joint custody. I filed for child support, I filed for parenting time. Over the course of the next 10 years it has been mom being a tyrant controlling every aspect of mine and my daughter’s relationship. 3 years ago there was some abuse happening in the home that mom walked in on, and did not report for almost a year after the fact. I filed for primary custody and was awarded such. Since I filed and got awarded my life has been a living hell. Mom has done nothing per the court order meaning, no notice when moving, taking child whenever she wants regardless of the court order, taking child to different doctors to purposely accrue a bill sent to me, every day text/email messages. All of which are in a threatening nature of being in contempt of court (This was primarily over providing a phone for child to talk to mom, which has since been provided) It seems that I am on my own. My attorney says there’s nothing I can do since we have a child together. This is now taking a toll on my marriage, and relationships between my other children and my daughter. So mom can do whatever she wants with no repercussions, but yet I fail to give a full 30 days notice for moving and I’m in contempt? Mom has not given a revised birth certificate (ordered to do so 4 different times), is over $1000 behind on child support, does not follow the order regarding parenting time, does not pay her portion of bills outside of insurance, takes her to get hair cuts/dying hair (no, she cannot do this on her own, must be consulted) I have years of text messages of how mom does, and will continue to do, whatever she wants, and I am the only one who has to follow the order. I feel like my lawyer is working for her also, not me. I say this because every time she doesn’t get what she wants, I get phone calls and forwarded emails from her lawyer. I have expressed legitimate concerns, all of which justify her in contempt of court, he says “Let me get a hold of opposing council” and nothing comes of it.

    Any advice to make all of this stop is very welcomed.

    Fed up dad (About to give up)

    I know exactly what your going thru. I have hired and fired three attorneys trying to stop my ex from using my son to control me. The court always dismisses her damaging actions to me and my son. Its horrible and grosse emotional trama is just one of the aspects of her actions and behavior. She goes thru men like they are disoisable. Which they are to her. She has forged my signature on checks that she stole from me. She has accused me of some horrible things. She has tried relentlessly to have me arrested. I have been to court with stacks of evidence and the court just dismisses all of it. The attorneys I hire talk a good game but they all three fall apart in court. All attorneys really are is used car salesmen anyway. They have only proven to make my life more of a living hell than before I hired them because they really do is encourage my ex to keep doing what shes doing. Its like the rules dont apply to her. It has worn me down so emotionally that my health is in decline. I feel completely defenceless against her and its like acid inside me eating away at my very soul.

    I have a 14 year old daughter with my ex-husband and he has physical custody but we have joint legal custody. Whenever our daughter is with me there are constant phone calls and texts as to where we are and what we are doing. There are also demands that I not take her to this place or that place and that I need his “permission” to do things like take her to a nail salon or hair salon. He is constantly reminding me that he has physical custody and everything I do with our child has to be approved by him. I remind him that physical custody just means that she lives with him a majority of the time. If I ignore his calls or texts he leaves threatening messages or starts calling my family members or friends to find out where we are. He’s even threatened to call the police because I wouldn’t answer him and he didn’t like the fact that we were someplace (a close friend’s home) he didn’t want our daughter to be. We have been divorced for 8 years and it has never stopped no matter how many times I have asked him to. I am at my wit’s end with the constant interference of my time with our daughter and the continual phone calls and texts as to where I am and what I am doing when she is not with me. I cannot afford an attorney so I don’t even know how to begin in the legal system to make this lunacy stop.

    I stayed with my wife for the sake of our daughter for years in a hostile relationship. I did whatever I could to keep the peace. I slept on the floor for years and helped to support our daughter every chance I could. We tried counseling and it was suggested that we do a trial separation or divorce after 6 months with the counselor. Immediately my wife got upset and suggested the counselor did not know what they were talking about and demanded we start over. Wife and I worked on the divorce paperwork and had everything complete over a dozen times. Wife would say just update this one little thing and she would sign, then another request to change just one more thing in her favor. I gave her the house and all assets. We divided the bank accounts 50/50 and that was not enough. The stress got so bad in the home our daughter started scratching her skin every night to the point she would wake up with bloody sheets. For the sake of our daughter I left the house.

    She no longer considers herself my wife and has indicated this in multiple forms of communication, yet she does not want the divorce. The once amicable divorce has turned extremely hostile with her going after every asset and pay check. She looks to control where I am and how I interact with my daughter on a daily basis. I have called my now second lawyer multiple times to resolve this yet I’m left in limbo with no means moving forward. I’m being told I’ll need to pay for interim support, back child support, spousal support, and all legal fees. Wife has held secret foreign accounts for the duration of the marriage. I’m apparently the bad guy wanting a better life for our daughter.

    My question is simple, how does one end a divorce with an individual who is only interest is financial gain from the family unit. After the divorce how do I ensure the harassment stops?

    BTW her actions have already put my job in jeopardy, her continued action will cost me the career.

    I am a divorced father of a wonderful 12 year old girl. I met my ex-wife when she was just leaving an abusive relationship. She was previously divorced. At the age of 17 she ran away from home as she had parents who could care less about her. Our relationship was rocky from the beginning and she was always very controlling. I married her thinking I could make things better for her. It only got worse especially after our daughter was born. I worked two jobs to support her while she was pregnant and then when she stayed home to raise our daughter. She did not want to go back to work when our daughter started school and everything was an argument. Eventually I caught her having an affair. Of course I “drove her to it.” I never laid a hand on her or cheated. I did my best to support our family. Now after 5 years of divorce it’s still horrendous. The narcissism is outrageous. False arrests, orders of protection, police reports. (Arrest and order throne out due to no crime committed) Manipulating our daughter and using her against me every chance she gets. But “it’s all my fault.” Calling the police on my birthday and telling our daughter over the phone disgusting things about me. But “it’s all my fault.” I can not even get a Judge to agree on therapy for my daughter! I don’t get it? I am a good father. I love my daughter and take care of her and always have. I pay for everything for my daughter. My ex pays for everything from what she took from me. Where is any justice? I feel like the biggest fool to think the “system” would expect my ex-wife to have to take responsibility in raising our daughter. I am a pay check and that’s it. The Judges could care less about me or my daughter. They don’t want to be bothered. Well unfortunately not every case can be settled. Some people are just that narcissistic.

    I’m going through the same thing and I know how to win . Your level of driving to termination of the biggest factor don’t give up. I help any way I can… remember the law works in your favor just as much is there you just have to know how to use it. And although hard never stooping down theRe level!!!

    Hi! My husband and I live in a some what rural area and we only have cell phone service, no home phone. Sometimes, well most of the time our best form of communication is through texting as we usually do not have a signal strength good enough to carry out an actual phone call. His ex-wife and her live in boyfriend have decided she will no longer be receiving, accepting, nor replying to any text messages and she will only communicate with my husband in person or through a phone call, solely because she states shes unable to know if she is speaking with him or someone else (me), through a text message. He has repeatedly explained to her our issues with not having a strong enough signal for a phone call but she refuses to accept this. We are not understanding how she could or could think she could just make these demands and decisions, within any legal right, when the majority of the time (and this has been explained to her and her boyfriend), that text messaging is the best form of communication he has. Nor do I understand if or how she could legally refuse any acceptable form of communication from him as long as it is not in a harassing manner and is only based around their child. Please, can you help me understand this and how it works. Thank you.

    There must be a good reason she feels she’s deceived via text messaging. Do you know if any time at all he has had another person text in response for him? Texts are like voices and people have a certain rythym to the way they both text and speak. Words one normally uses in text, along with text structure and even emojis. These things are familiar to an ex. Even a friend or family member you text on a regular basis. So I ask you what is it you are either being dishonest about or being lied to by your husband about. It’s likely more than this post entails. Be careful you’re also not becoming a victim. Good luck to you.

    My wife who is a Nurse used to phone me while I was at work in a london hospital and try and get me in trouble .It got so bad that I lost my job as I snapped at work can I report her and what are the consequences if I do?


    I am a single father of an almost 5 month old little girl. The mother and I are not married or together and I filed a parenting petition with the court with in 2 weeks of the baby being born. The reason for the delay – when the baby was born, their were complications at birth which resulted in the child being immediately transferred to another hospital with the appropriate resources to provide immediate care. At the time, I followed the ambulance to the hospital and stayed with the child until she was approved to be transferred back to the previous hospital where her mother was recovering. However, prior to the baby being transferred back, the birth certificate was issued to the mother. The mother told the hospital that I wasn’t the father, left me off the birth certificate, and claimed to DHHS that I was not involved, and that she didn’t know who the father was. The hospital notified me immediately about the mother’s actions. As such, I paid (out of pocket) for a mobile unit to perform a DNA test. The mother was infuriated by this and began harassing both myself and various doctors. The results proved positive within 2 weeks time and I filed a parenting petition with the court and requested that my name go on the birth certificate. The mother ignored the court notices until I paid out of pocket again to have her served. She proceeded by responding to the service notice late and did not send me any paperwork prior to first appearance, (even then, she did not provide completed, accurate or notarized paperwork) its been 4 months and after mediation (another out of pocket expense) I just now managed to get my name on the birth certificate (once again, I had to pay out of pocket to do so). I am currently waiting on a pretrial date. All the while, the mother has dictated when I can see our daughter, and she has used our daughter solely as a bribe to receive favors from me. The mother was on probation for 2 DUI’s for 3 years. Her sentence ended last week. She has received state assistance because she lied about my involvement in the child’s life, she also claimed the child on her taxes under false description of circumstances, and she continues to use our daughter as leverage for getting her own way. My options up to this point have been, don’t give in and in turn go without seeing my daughter, or give in for the sake of seeing my daughter. It’s a lose lose scenario because the mother’s demands are getting more ridiculous by the day. She’s taking advantage of the court being a slow process. So much so, that she’s demanding I move in with her and marry her or I’m not allowed to see the baby. On one occasion she asked me to watch the baby so she could supposedly go into work and within an hour or so of having the baby, she threatened to call the cops on me for kidnapping. I contacted a lawyer and was told I had to bring the baby back to the mother because there’s currently no set parenting time schedule in place. DCYF opened an investigation but ultimately considered my case unfounded because the mother has a way of wearing a mask when she needs to and can be very convincing to a point where she may very well be considered having criteria met for a diagnosis of being narcissistic. During prenatal care, the Dr’s found THC in the mother’s blood (meaning she technically broke probation). Among a series of other details as well, my main point of concern is, how can I prove to the court that the mother is unfit, when the court (thus far) has made it very clear that the best interest of the child is to have both parents and a good parent has to demonstrate willingness to CO parent cooperatively and be willing to include the other parent? I requested 50/50 custody, for the sake of the courts expectations. However, realistically speaking, I would suggest that it is imperative that she has her rights removed immediately, or at the very least, be granted supervised visitation only. I feel the mother may have postpartum psychosis, in addition to being narcissistic, bipolar, an alcoholic, a known drug user, and a pathological liar with no more than a high-school diploma at 30 years old. I, on the other hand, am 25 years old, I have 2 bachelor’s degrees, and I am 1 year shy of also having a certification in teaching secondary English education grades 5-12. I currently hold certifications in: red Cross adult/child CPR/first aid, study skills/writing tutor status, safety care, and as a Registered Behavior Technician. I have a full time career-based job that offers health and dental benefits, I have a valid driver’s license and fully insured and working vehicle. I work a set schedule with flexibility to work from home up to 4 hours a week, PTO, vacation time and quarterly bonuses. I am available to care for my child and when i am not available due to working, I have access to resources and alternative care such as daycare, available immediate family members, and a wide range support network through work, church, friends and family.

    Thus far, no one has been able to hear me out on the full extent of my current situation, so please, if you can offer any advice or further direction on what steps to take, I’d greatly appreciate it.

    So what do you do when it’s the other way around? My ex husband has been harassing me since he walked out. He left me and the kids, fine keep going! But after I filed for divorce he began bombarding me with emails and texts almost daily. While he’s not outright threatening all the time he just refuses to back off. He sees the kids, we’ve gone to court but he keeps pushing to have his way despite what the court order states. I’ve talked to lawyers, counselors and they all seem to say there’s nothing I can do except learn to deal with it. He’s under a no contact protection from abuse order so he can’t contact me for 3 years unless through email and only regarding the kids but he’s using that as a tool to keep up the harassment. ALL of his emails he includes his dad, his step mother, his lawyer, his girlfriend, my lawyer and then also a copy to himself. It’s ridiculous. I understand this is more a men’s forum and trust me guys my heart goes out to you…there are some seriously crazy women in the world. But does anyone have any advice on what to do against a crazy guy!?

    My daughters mother is calling me names in front of my daughter at every exchange… Today it was”fucking retard” we do our exchanges at a police station because she’s had me thrown in jail all charges dropped… No proof.. But wen it happens in front of the person at the cop shop(wittnes) I get cops involved… I gt told civil dispute go to court… As we all know courts R NOT HERE TO HELP… So I take my role in r court systems as a bad father… Something r courts has defined me as and made me out to b… Now to find the strength to keep going

    I have been divorced for 12 years. Our kids are grown. I need my ex to stop showing up at my family functions. Don’t I have the right to visit my family without his presence? I do not go to his, but our children think i should just let him come and be fine with it. If i were “fine” with him, i wouldn’t have divorced him. There was a lot of abuse from him. What is right?

    I am divorced, and our divorce was settled in an agreement rather than decided by the court itself. The kids were in her primary custody and I had visitation. Through some events where my ex was not able to care for the kids for a while, I was given full custody. She constantly puts down my parenting, and threatens vague “legal action”, or to “take notes” – basically extortion. She has called police a couple of occasions where she invented an emergency. The most recent, the cop who came to my door (and of course found nothing wrong – kids were fine, everything was fine), asked if I had a restraining order against her – he was not happy at being called out to check on us as he said essentially she was using the police to harass me.
    Our oldest will be an adult soon, but our youngest is years away from that, so I’m not real happy with the prospect of living with harassment for another decade. Anything I can do? I don’t really want to cause the kids’ mom undue trouble, but it’s not right that she’s harassing me either and I’m considering what to do next. Every time I see a new text come in it’s stressful.

    Block her and get a lawyer and get an injunction and notify the courts that way she will stop before it gets worse and also record everything especially if she’s nearby. She’s gonna try to get you locked up and in court.

    I’m a Mom who receives non stop harassment from Dad. I got 53 texts in two weeks. They just kept coming even though I never replied to a single one! All opinions about how I am parenting our shared child. Even AFTER I was awarded sole custody and the judge ordered no disparaging remarks and not a day goes by that I am not told how awful I am. Interested in this Proper Comm…or some type of mediator!

    It all depends on how bad the harassment is. The main thing to remember is to try not to escalate the situation. You should also take a look in the mirror. Is there something you are doing that is causing your ex to exhibit this behavior? Sometimes we don’t see it. Ask a good friend who knows you for an honest assessment. Nothing gets resolved with yelling matches over the phone. If your ex is constantly calling, tell him/her to text you. There are texting services that keep track of your conversations and might be used in your court proceedings. KEEP YOUR COOL! Don’t do or say anything you will regret later. When I was going through my divorce my ex accused me of calling her 50-100 times a day. It was an easy fix, I gave all my phone records to the Guardian Ad Litem. If the ex crosses the line you may have to call the police. Hopefully it wont come to that. Remember one thing, It will get better with time!

    Look at Proper Comm
    – a company that edits nasty emails! charges sender for length of original. I am just requesting judge to order this, restraining order agains abusive emails failed = this sounds like an answer to my prayers!

    Where are the answers to the above questions and request for help? My issues are all of the above. Sadly, I have been divorced for 12 years and our only child is now 16 and has decided to go live with his father in hopes to stop the harrashment. However, the man is still not happy. He has remarried for the 3rd time, has the child, and no longer pays child support. But, he still harrashes me legally. The most recent is that he has filed for divorce from me in a state that neither of us live. We have not been together in over 14years. WTF????? What can I do to stop the madness.

    I’m the reverse I’m the one calling yelling begging asking why don’t u pay your child support why did u lie about your income why do u badger and constantly ask our 13 year old daughter the same questions who u accused me of manipulating and i never did or would I’m the one who got kicked and he went to jail and now claims self defense and got a restraining order put on me by the judge for no annoying calls is it not annoying he wont help me with our child and if I was so annoying why don’t u block me so i cannot call or text the daughter has her own phone which u he doesn’t help pay why do i constantly get contempt papers on me and he gets away w it .. if you would pay ur support help w the kid n make right w her i would never text or call .. its like he sets me up to get angry so i will text but then claims its annoying n files another charge on me…i wanna get along but hard when u find out about another affair every month i need to let it go !! Just move on hes never gonna help n hes always gonna lie i want to be amicable n b done w the hate

    We have a problem my husband and I have been married 10 years his ex uses our address his last name credit card application comes to our house in her name bills ext. She started working on a law firm as server person she looked up if we have any legal or court problems and she has called to tell us what we have also she call our cell phones and insult us and even has said my husband is sleeping with her and he is next to me we are sick and tired of Her harassing us is there anything legal that we can do to stop her

    My exwife constantly harasses and calls all my employers,contacts, and hman resource departments, friends…she constantly spies behind my back on my life and constantly harasses my new wife.

    I have been subjected to numerous forms of harassment for three years. This includes texts to myself, my girlfriend, my adult children. My employees, my company website, and she has struck me on numerous occasions. Onetime she hit me over a dozen times in front of witnesses. The police of course arrested me. She now has assaulted her neighbor. I am afraid if I take legal action she will get worse. The police are under strict orders to only arrest men. What do I do?

    It sounds like you need a witness. Can you record these interactions using your cell phone? Clearly she should be hauled away for being physically abusive, and the Police should not be allowed to engage in such blatant gender bias.

    Thank you for this information. I am a good father who has found himself in this situation for the past year; ever since meeting me fiance. I am currently seeking an attorney along these lines in the St. Clair County MI area. If you could possibly refer someone, I would appreciate it greatly. Thank you

    Thank you for this. I agree. The use of co-parenting communication tools (I of course recommend can in most cases be sufficient enough. In more extreme cases, inviting a professional to oversee such as a parent coordinator and/or attorney can help. Thank you for listing patience here…it is so crucial to all relationships. It is important to remember too that you may not like the person you have to co-parent with, but you do have to make an effort to communicate with them, its for the best interest of the kids. Cheers.

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