Is Collaborative Divorce Right For Me? 5 Pros and Cons

collaborative divorceBy Jennifer M. Paine

Cordell & Cordell Divorce Lawyer

While researching your divorce options, chances are you will come across the collaborative divorce model.

As a model, it is relatively new, dating from the mid-1990s from the Midwest, when a group of family court attorneys and experts committed to collaborating with each other for a divorcing family, rather than against each other.

Pockets of collaborative lawyers popped up across the county touting a new option for families that were facing the throes of divorce court and the prospect of paying a lot of money on lawyers and trials while their homes fell into foreclosure and the economy crumbled.

The theory was at least in a collaborative divorce these families would spend less, avoid court, and divorce in a more amicable and less costly manner.

As a concept, however, divorce collaboration is nothing new.

On some level, all divorce lawyers must collaborate with each other to arrange parenting plans, appraise and divide property, etc. For decades, as mediation became more popular, collaboration became the divorce court’s expectation, if not the state’s law.

In most states now, mediation and collaboration are either encouraged or mandated.

Considering that collaboration is expected regardless, why would one go further and use a collaborative divorce model instead?

 

5 Pros of Collaborative Divorce

1. The process is generally confidential, whereas the court process, requires the court to keep a public record and conduct hearings and trials in open court, except in limited circumstances, in which the judge allows for sealing a file or closing the courtroom doors.

2. You can choose your and your spouse’s attorneys, knowing that both are committed to the collaborative divorce model.

3. You and your spouse enter into a contract to consult together with financial experts, mental healthcare experts, and parenting experts to supplement the services your lawyers provide and generally share those costs.

4. You spend less time at the courthouse waiting for your case to be called and observing scheduling conferences and temporary hearings that seem to have very little to do with the ultimate outcome of your case.

5. Because the process is voluntary, it is more likely you and your spouse are “on the same page” with your desired outcome and, thus, are more likely to honor it post-divorce.

 

Cons of Collaborative Divorce

1. If the process does not work, i.e., you and your spouse cannot reach an agreement, most collaborative divorce contracts require that you hire new attorneys for a court process – that is, you end up paying more for lawyers when one party does not agree to settle.

2. You must trust your spouse to fully disclose her assets and debts and to communicate in an open and honest manner about all issues in your case, which is highly unusual for spouses who are divorcing in the first place.

3. You cannot avoid the courtroom altogether; rather, at least one of you must attend a hearing to submit your settlement agreement to the divorce court and to obtain your judge’s approval as to parenting matters, over which the judge maintains authority despite your agreement to collaborate and settle without the judge’s involvement.

4. In cases of domestic violence, your judge may not allow, or accept an agreement from, the collaborative divorce process.

5. Oftentimes, there are legitimate differences of opinion for things like business valuations, and, thus, having a retained expert for each of you is not a bad thing but, rather, more akin to getting a second opinion from a doctor or a critical eye to disclose honest, but for you potentially costly, mistakes in one expert’s opinion. What’s worse, if you disagree with your mutual expert, then you must breach the collaborative divorce contract and start the process anew in court.

Thus, the costs are not necessarily, if ever, cheaper for a collaborative divorce, and the loss of independent analysis could prove costly to you.

 

Collaborative Divorce Concept

Nevertheless, the collaborative concept is generally a good one, and any attorney who is worth working on your divorce should tell you likewise.

A divorce lawyer’s job is to keep the process less stressful for you, whether we are working as a team of attorneys or sharing information despite our differences from opposite sides of the courtroom.

All of this goes to say, “collaboration” in the divorce process should be your expectation, even if you do not choose the collaborative divorce model. Your judge will expect it, and so should you.

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Jennifer M. Paine is a Michigan Divorce Lawyer with Cordell & Cordell. She is licensed to practice in Michigan, and has been admitted pro hac vice in Illinois, Ohio, and the United States Court of Federal Claims.

Ms. Paine received her Bachelor of Arts in English and Mathematics from Albion College and graduated Summa Cum Laude. She received her Juris Doctorate from MSU College of Law and graduated Summa Cum Laude.

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3 comments on “Is Collaborative Divorce Right For Me? 5 Pros and Cons

    I’d disagree that the level and type of collaboration between attorneys in a typical divorce case and in an actual Collaborative Divorce process are at all comparable. As to con #2, trust but verify is the model. No client is ever expected to trust blindly. And, as to con #3, this is not required in all states, so a client’s attendance in court is often not at all necessary.

    Collaborative divorce sounds like a really helpful and much needed appraoch to divorce which could be helpful for lots of people, particularly since divorce can be so bitter and devstating to lots of people.

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