Can my ex cut our child’s hair without asking me first?


I have joint custody of my children. They live with me one week and then one week with their mother. My question is can their mother cut their hair without asking me first? She went and cut 15 inches off my daughter’s hair. Is there anything I can do to keep her from doing what she wants with her hair?



Please be advised that I am not licensed to practice in the state of Oklahoma.  I would advise you to seek independent advice from an attorney licensed in the state of Oklahoma.

I would first look to your Judgment to see if it provides for altering your child’s appearance. I would then look to Oklahoma law regarding this issue.  Generally, I would not think that there would be any statute prohibiting a parent with joint legal custody from cutting their child’s hair. I believe that you may be able to file a motion to modify your previous judgment to try to change the parenting plan that is currently in place to include language regarding your child’s appearance.

You should not rely on this answer as establishing an attorney-client relationship and should seek an attorney in your are should you need additional information or legal representation. Cordell & Cordell, P.C. has attorneys in Oklahoma who would be glad to meet with you should you so choose.


Andrew VanNess is an Associate Attorney in the Kansas City, Missouri office of Cordell & Cordell, P.C. where he practices family law. Mr. VanNess is licensed to practice in Missouri. Mr. VanNess received his B.S. in Geography with a minor in Biology from Northwest Missouri State University, and his Juris Doctor from the University of Missouri-Kansas City School of Law.

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One comment on “Can my ex cut our child’s hair without asking me first?

    You should:::::
    Let her do it besides your daughter will tell her if she doesn’t want it that short so relax

    Ps I am 9 years old my parents have the exact same problem they did it to me and I said I don’t want to so she stopped

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