I am paying child support to my ex-wife who frequently goes on vacation, gets plastic surgery, and has home renovations done while I’m barely able to survive.
I would rather pay for my children’s medical expenses, school costs, etc., than give her a fat “child support” check each month that likely doesn’t always go to supporting my kids.
Is there anything I can do if I suspect my ex-wife is using child support to support her lifestyle and not the children’s?
I am unable to give you legal advice on divorce. I can give general divorce help for men, though, my knowledge is based on Colorado child support laws where I am licensed to practice.
Each state is different in how it calculates child support, though one thing that is generally applicable is that courts are not going to get involved in designating where each dollar of child support goes.
The receiver of child support is generally going to be presumed to be acting in the best interests of the children and the court generally will not get involved in dictating that each dollar of child support must go to specific expenses.
This can be very frustrating to the obligor paying child support when he or she is seeing their ex spending money on vacations, home improvements, etc., but the way the court views it is that the parent uses the child support to support the children.
The court won’t interfere in saying where each dollar goes because it’s not practical and if a person spends a dollar of their own income on lunch for the child, then uses a dollar of the child support to pay a credit card bill, the money is benefitting the children in one way or another.
In short, it’s just too difficult for the court to police where every dollar of child support goes so the court doesn’t.
Remember, I am unable to provide you with anything more than divorce tips for men, so please consult with a divorce lawyer in your jurisdiction.