I recently took a vacation with my child out of state and my ex-wife was furious.
In our child custody order there is no mention of us having to report travel to each other.
Is there any law or rule stating I have to inform my ex when I leave the state with our child?
I am unable to give you legal advice on divorce. I can give general divorce help for men, though, my knowledge is based on New York divorce laws where I am licensed to practice.
Generally, under the law, there are no restrictions for travel with children when the children are with a parent during their parenting time.
Of course, a custody agreement or custody order can include any restrictions that either the parties or the court deem appropriate. If your custody order does not restrict travel than there is no basis for your ex to object to the travel itself.
She may, however, be taking objection more to not being informed of the travel than to the actual travel.
While the law has no specific requirements that the noncustodial parent be informed of out-of-state travel, as long as you have joint legal custody it is good practice to keep each other informed if you are planning to have the kids away from home for any extended period of time.
While you may not be in violation of a custody order, this is the kind of thing parties point to when trying to seek a custody modification.
The bottom line here, is that you are not under a legal obligation to seek permission from, or to inform your ex of, travel out of state (unless the custody order directs otherwise), but, in the future, it would be a good idea to inform your ex of long-distance travel, if for no other reason than to avoid potential issues down the road.
Remember, I am unable to provide you with anything more than divorce tips for men, so please consult with divorce lawyers for men in your jurisdiction.