My wife and I had agreed on a 50/50 custody arrangement for our three shared children.
Now, she is asking to be the primary custodian.
If I allow her her to be listed as primary, what rights do I lose as a parent?
While I am not licensed to practice law in your state, I can give some general guidance on this issue.
The simple answer to this question is that you do not lose any parental rights when you are the non-custodial parent, a parent that does not having primary physical custody.
As long as you have joint legal custody, you will be able to share in decision making and will have the right to equal access to all information regarding your children. This includes school records, medical records and more.
However, what giving primary physical custody to your wife does mean is that you will have limited time with your children. It will likely affect the amount of child support you will be ordered to pay your wife.
Moreover, the legal standard to modify custody from primary physical to joint physical after divorce is typically much higher. If she she ever decides to move out of state, the primary physical custodian typically has an advantage when requesting an out of state relocation with the children.
Prior to taking making any formal agreement with your wife, I recommend contacting a family law attorney in your jurisdiction to review the facts of your particular situation and advise you as to your best course of action.
Remember, I am unable to provide you with anything more than divorce tips for men, so please consult a domestic litigation attorney in your area to obtain specific advice as to the laws in your state and how they impact your potential case.