6 Things You Should Never Say To Your Ex During A Divorce

what not to say divorceBy Cordell & Cordell Divorce Lawyers for Men

Divorce for men is hard, and you may be tempted to lash out at your soon-to-be ex.

But it’s important to keep your cool and hold your tongue. One unfortunate slip could hurt your case and your finances–not to mention your karma.

In that light, we’ve gone through our Cordell & Cordell reviews and found six things that our divorce attorneys recommend you should absolutely never say to your spouse while going through a divorce.

1. I’m Going To (Insert Threat Here) You!

No matter how angry you are, violence is never the answer. And threatening violence is no joke either. It could hurt your case, and you could end up in other legal trouble as well.

2. I’ve Got A New Girlfriend, And She’s Better Than You.

When your ex is listing all of things you did wrong during your marriage, you may want to bite back and tell her about your new romantic interest. But while it might make you feel smug (and her jealous), it’s a mistake in the long run. Why add more fuel to her fire? Telling her about your new girlfriend will just make her more combative.

3. I’m Moving Out

You may want to start your new life immediately by moving as far away from your spouse as you can, but doing so can give her an advantage during property division. Instead, grit your teeth and stay put until your property is divided. We see this mistake a lot during divorce for men, so don’t fall for it.

4. Take It All. I Give Up.

Divorce is a long, hard process, and you may be tempted to surrender to get it all behind you. But remember: giving in may spare you some pain now, but it will hurt later. Dig in and don’t settle for less than your fair share.

5. The Kids Hate You

During a divorce, the most important thing is the welfare of you kids. And even if you don’t like your spouse, it’s important to realize that your kids still need a mom.

So dragging your kids into the fray, especially to hurt your spouse, is a definite no-no.

6. I Was Cheating On You The Whole Time

First of all, hopefully you weren’t cheating on her. But either way, saying this to your spouse can destroy your case, because the courts in some states take infidelity into account when deciding property division and custody.

Have you been tempted to say these things during your divorce? Leave us a comment, and browse our Cordell and Cordell reviews to find out how a Cordell lawyer can help with your case.

Cordell and Cordell has over 20 years of experience in divorce for men, and the thorough Cordell and Cordell review process ensures that you’ll get the highest level of performance on your case.

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Paul Parker
2 years 3 months ago

cleaner
Is it alright to hire a new attorney when your going into settlement at court? Present attorney doesn’t seem too put my best interests in front of judge.

Rock Gaines
2 years 8 months ago

re: written by Frustrated father, July 24, 2013
Should read:
I requested from my ex wife that she allow my daughter to live with me. She refused, so back to court we went.

Rock Gaines
2 years 8 months ago
re: written by Frustrated father, July 24, 2013 I was given such a hard time by the mediator for saying i wanted to be with our children 50% of the time – the mediator immediately told me that i only cared about money and from that point on, the meeting did not go so well. I was trying to be fair, but i was labeled for saying 50% – so i would suggest others not say 50% First of all, never allow your opposition to intimidate you. During one of my mediation sessions with my ex-wife and her lawyer, the… Read more »
Frustrated father
3 years 2 months ago

I was given such a hard time by the mediator for saying i wanted to be with our children 50% of the time – the mediator immediately told me that i only cared about money and from that point on, the meeting did not go so well. I was trying to be fair, but i was labeled for saying 50% – so i would suggest others not say 50%

3 years 3 months ago

Stay at home dads: What are my rights?
Stay At Home Dad: What Are My Rights?

http://www.dadsdivorce.com/articles/stay-at-home-dad-what-are-my-rights.html

Curious
3 years 3 months ago

Very good question from Confused. Is there an answer?

confused
3 years 3 months ago
stay at home dadI was a stay at home dad and married for 6 years at which I raised the children. I filed for divorce because My wife decided one day to just move out and left me and the three children. Our divorce hearing is next month and I need to know if she could take everything and full custody of the children? I know everything about our kids and all she ever did was go party after work while i stayed at home for six years raising kids! what could happen to me in the divorce? It is… Read more »
Curious
3 years 3 months ago

No proof was provided against your current wife? Is it a court order? Did a court official sign the order? If so, what title of authority does the court official hold?

Adam Campbell
3 years 4 months ago
Angry Ex-wifeMy wife was served with a No Contact order. Which states she, my new wife, has threatened my ex with bodily harm. not only is this ridiculous, but my wife can not pick up or drop off my child or have any contact, such as school functions and country fair, that our children are involved in as members of 4-H. We are frustrated and confused as to how someone can just file this with no proof!? also we are now in a bind as she was our main transportation for my daughter because of my work sched. it makes… Read more »
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