An interesting study showed that 67 percent of the nation’s divorce lawyers have clients ask them for advice on how to discuss divorce and separation with their children, according to research by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML).
The survey also reveals that 74 percent of respondents say the children are often put in the middle of divorce proceedings, which many parents would agree is not the appropriate thing to do.
The research has prompted the AAML to offer a pamphlet entitled “What Should We Tell the Children? A Parent’s Guide for Talking About Separation and Divorce” whose primary goal is to make discussions with children about separation a bit easier for parents and more helpful and meaningful for their children, according to the AAML website. Click here to order the $3 pamphlet.
We have many articles and interviews on this topic, including one from last week “Helping Children With Divorce,” but let’s hear from you:
- For those going through divorce, how have you handled telling your children?
- What about those who have already been through a divorce, any advice on how to approach this delicate situation?
One comment on “How Do You Talk To Your Kids About Divorce?”
Founder, Child-Centered Divorce Network
Yes, you are correct about the importance of how we tell kids about divorce. My own experience more than a decade ago led to my writing a guidebook for parents on how to create a storybook with family photos and history as a successful way to have that tough break-the-news conversation. I’m recognized as The Voice of Child-Centered Divorce and my ebook is How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce? A Create-a-Storybook™ Guide to Preparing Your Children — With Love! What makes the book unique is that I don’t just tell parents what to say. I provide customizable templates to say it for them!
Therapists, attorneys, mediators, educators and other professionals from around the world have endorsed the book, attesting to the value of my fill-in-the-blanks, age-appropriate templates. Six therapists contribute their expertise to the book, as well. My goal is for divorcing couples to stop, talk and create a plan before having that crucial “divorce” talk with their children. I hope, for the sake of their kids, they will decide to move ahead in creating a child-centered divorce. For free articles, ezine and other valuable resources on this topic, visit http://www.childcentereddivorce.com.
Sincere best wishes,
Rosalind Sedacca, CCT