“What can I do to get more parenting time with my kids?”
However, before you even retain an attorney, there are steps you can take to give yourself the best chance at obtaining additional parenting time with your children.
1. Document everything. This is one of the most important things you can do to build your case.
Is your ex-wife attempting to alienate you out of your kids’ lives? Keep a detailed log of every instance of bad behavior. You need to be extremely specific. List the time, date, place and every key detail you can think of to show how your wife acted.
This will give your attorney a compelling piece of evidence to show the court once your case begins.
2. Don’t engage with your ex. There is a good chance your relationship with your former spouse has soured beyond the point of no return. In that case, it is probably best to limit the amount of communication you have with her.
It can be frustrating when you know she is treating you unfairly, but she might be trying to provoke you into acting emotionally. Don’t take her bait. And again, document every instance of poor behavior.
Try your best to remain respectful. If it helps, avoid direct communication by sorting out issues over the phone or by email. Whatever you do, don’t get into an argument in front of your kids.
3. Don’t insult your ex in front of your kids. You need to take the high road as much as possible. Even if she is insulting you in front of your children, turn the other cheek (and add each reported insult to your log).
4. Continue being the best parent you can be. Once your custody modification proceeding begins, the judge is going to want to see how involved the dad is in the kids’ lives.
Make sure you exercise all your visitation or parenting time. If you are granted email or phone privileges while they’re in their mother’s care, utilize that, too.
Get to know their teachers and know how they’re doing in school. Be reliable in attending their school functions.
The important thing is that you show how deeply you care about them. That is going to be important regardless of how the custody modification turns out.
None of these steps guarantee that you’ll be given more parenting time. But they can go a long way toward helping you build as strong a case as possible.
Once you feel you have a solid case built, you need to contact an attorney
to help you convince the court to modify your parenting time.