In the movie, “When Harry Met Sally,” there’s that classic scene of a man and a woman bickering over whether or not their new home needs a wagon wheel shaped coffee table. And Harry says, “Someday, believe it or not, you’ll go 15 rounds over who’s gonna get this coffee table. This stupid, wagon wheel, Roy Rodgers, garage sale coffee table!”
It’s difficult to watch the dissolution of a household via the mere divvying up of goods, but redecorating the space that you once shared as a couple has a strong psychological power. Redecorating gives you an opportunity to redefine and renew yourself. Here are a few tips to get you started:
First and foremost, change your bedding. Enough said, right? If anything, all memories need to be banished.
Remove the clutter ASAP! Remove clutter now so that you’re less likely to find that stray memento that could send you into a sad tailspin that makes you 30 minutes late to work.
Adding a new coat of paint can transform a room instantaneously. Although red, orange and yellow are the warmest colors that often evoke feelings of happiness, optimism and energy, it’s more important to pick a color that resonates best with you. Really, who cares how somebody else interprets the color you enjoy most? You can use an online tool like My Color Finder from Better Homes and Gardens to virtually paint a room and find the perfect shade without the long-term commitment.
Warm, natural lighting is also psychologically uplifting and could lighten your mental gloom. In the bedroom, it’s best to feature bright lights near the bed for reading and any overhead lights should be fitted with a dimmer. Adding updated window treatments is also an easy, mentally-clarifying fix. Whether you’re on a budget or having trouble deciding which fabric is best, visit sites like The Shade Store for custom drapes and blinds that add an elegant, easy design touch to your home.
Now is the time to bring out those collectibles and display them with flair and pride. We all have our obsessions, so why not show them off? If your spouse banished your sock monkey collection to the basement dungeon or your impressive vintage camera assortment is collecting dust in a bin, give them a proper place to shine.
Surround yourself with photos of family or friends, books that you enjoy reading, etc. The point is to bring attention to the objects that encourage your energetic or creative spark. And although this should go without saying, there should be absolutely zero photos of your ex.
If you don’t want to buy all new furniture, why not just breathe some new life into your old pieces? And save some cash! Add some personality by painting your furniture a bold color, staining it or hand painting a pattern.